the end of the exam period is near. going to leave singapore soon. goin where? philipines. for? doin volunteer work at HFH(habitat for humanity). haha..my motive? gain more exposure. nothing like being in foregin land and away from parents, shld be quite out of my comfort zone for a while.
wat did she say abt this. hmmm..oh well. either she said nothing or i couldnt remember. on my part i rather i couldnt remember.
my parents who goes on and on abt this and that. :0 i am not complaining abt it, rather i am pretty much enjoyin basking in such concerns. well, seems tat they are the only ones who cares. not forgetting grandma as well. :)
during this exam period, u might be surprised how often i have been watching the korean drama on dvd. its actually not my idea. its mummy who is attached to the drama, i am jus sitting in :) ...
its the one abt 18-yr girl being married off into a fictional korean royal family. mostly abt her adapting towards the different life and her indifferent new husband.
then it started me thinking. why cant ppl articulate they feelings to those corncerned? if u are worried abt another person, cant u at least express it out? makes u wonder if that person is at all feeling anything?
i also admire the main female character in the drama. her persistence in trying to make her indifferent husband speak up. that is some determination. for me, i would jus give up after some attempts. ... ...
i beginning to understand how tiring one-sided love is. or at least how it is to feel one sided. it is when u cant feel emotional attachment from another. technically, that is not true. cos, interestingly as it sounds, theres actually such a thing as love language.
seems tat everyone reacts to love and give love differently. there are actually 5 ways to show or recieve love. act of service, quality time, by words, by physical and by presents. according to wat i understand, as time pass by, one of these many traits will start to dominate. and it is not necessary that u show or recieve love by the same means.
act of service : does very subtle things like making tonic soup, making porridge when u sick, etc.(usually found in older generation of ppl, they like doing these kind of things)
quality time : amount of love = amount of time spent together (simple and most economical love, i guess)
by words : wat is said verbally = love. these group of ppl likes and love to hear/say love you and stuff.(i guess this is dominate in those highly skilled in articulation)
by phyiscal : not sex. but rather they enjoy the slight cuddle, hugs, or even the good pat on the back.
by present : needless to say. loves/likes to be showed with gifts(this catergory of girls should be avoided at all males...most economically taxing not to mention the vast amount of effort)
so at a brain level, all these are checked in. and the brain acts accordingly. lets say for example, girl A is one of those who feels that she is being loved by words. boyfriend A can go ahead present her with gifts and spend time with her. however, she wouldnt as much loved as if boyfriend A did say a few words to express himself.
after this text, i guess everyone will be more enlightened. or at least i hope everyone will be. so that there can be more love to be spread around.
