today at NLP(neuro-linguistic programming;defined by google : Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a therapeutic process which enables you to break old patterns and generate unlimited potential using posture, breathing, specific exercises, awareness and communication skills.) lesson, finally saw the light of application. so i am kinda of dedicating this post to all those who are lost in the field of LOVE

HOW to know who is in LOVE and whose NOT?(the tell-tale signs)

i was initially quite troubled with the affairs of the heart. maybe its because of my discipline and training as an engineer. i am taught to read indicators and analysis from all possible angles and viewpoints. then when it comes to girls, there always seems to be a lack of indicators to base my analysis. not to mention the lack of assumption to predict the possible outcomes. then came NLP, the engineer's approach to the heart.

the key word is rapport(defined by google:Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective, being in "sync", being on the same wavelength as the person you are talking to.).

there are always people in your life that you are closer to and some that you jus dun think you would want to be in the same room with. this is due to the either the non-intention to rapport a certain sterotype of people or the inflexiblity of rapporting a different type of people from you.

the level of rapport is jus the first indicator that shld go off. during this rapport, the potential candiate would get himself/herself more and more interested in knowing more you. this would be the intention of rapport. this intention will very likely be picked up by observant or intutive people, or by warning from friends. without this intention of rapport, there will be no further need to read on. and like i have said, this is only the entry level. not everyone is a potential candiate YET.

stage two. this stage will consist a more advanced stage of rapporting, mirroring. there will be a few level of mirroring happening as well. there can be mirroring of tonality, type of words used, guesture and even posture. all these are still quite preliminary stages and nothing shld be confirmed. slowly as all these mirroring continues, it becomes difficult to distinct between which actions and mannerism actually is distinct to who.

stage 3. this stage will still be considered in the advanced stage of rapporting, matching. as from the previous stage, the potential candiate will try to mimic and mirror the type of words used. this is in a bid to learn and havin a matching response to attain the maximum 'sync' between any two person.

i will stop here, as i do believe that up till this stage, you will eventually hear the knock of your lover at the doorstep of your heart.

this is a guideline written for those who have difficulty finding their potential LOVERs in the midst. thus no elaboration is made at the 3rd stage. for sincere people who require more information, please contact me @ alan.koh@gmail.com.

till now...my counter for the number of girlfriends is still 0. :)