jus came back from badminton...wow....!!! if i am not wrong, when you exercise your body release some chemicals which make the mind feel happy. yup...its releasing.

to add to that, my brain is kinda working in the reverse mode too. i was actually jus wondering, everyone has been wondering wat kinda of wife/girlfriend or husband/boyfriend to look for. however, has anyone considered wat to scarifice for them?

let me rephrase that again. meaning, everyone goes around looking for a partner/companion saying that i want him/her to be this, to be that ,have this and that. however, has anyone considered wat i can provide/give for him/her?

in negotiations i learnt that the only win-win situation is when the the minimal conditions of both parties have a common area of intersection. for example in a 2 party nego, both parties agree to a certain price for their commdities in hand that both parties have their individual interest fulfilled.

when i look at myself or the people around, i see everyone demanding. "i want good looks in my girlfriend", "i want an atm for a boyfriend", "i want him to consistently care for me", "she must be faithful to me" and the demand list goes on and on. since the 2 parties are demanding, can there be a common interesection of interest? hehe...not that i am sounding rather pessimistic here. marriages still happen now and then, so i guess interesection does happen.

then wat is the give/scarifice i am talking about? when people mention scarifice, the impression is that i give wat i have. for example, if i had 2 dollars, i will scarifice 1 dollar for charity. is that scarifice?!? at least not in my definition and dictionary. i feel that if you give something that you already have abundance of, that is not scarifice. rather, if you give up wat u have already so little of, THAT is scarifice. wat will you scarifice? if you already a list of things wat to scarifice, please throw that thought away, unless tested through life's lessons.

this post is not written to put the author is glowing white light. rather this post is written, as part of the author's experience in life. for the author is another like others who always has a list of demands ready and never knew wat it is to give.

then again, to give is not to provide things that YOU THINK the other party will need. rather, you will have to sit down and LISTEN. listen hard and listen long, when dun understand, clarify. for example, you dun jus give a beggar money. even if you can give the 1st beggar you see, how abt the rest that you are goin to meet? wat the beggar needs may not even be your charity, rather, they may need your assistance more!

after saying all this, i hope no one will rush to your nearest beggar and listen to him/her. this is a purely to illustrate the idea of listening. however, if you really feel that noblity in your heart to help the beggars on the street, then go ahead, no one is stopping you.